YOUR SUCCESS HAS A DUE DATE

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The MOMENT you were created by God and placed in your mothers womb, you had a SEED of success within you! On the journey of success, it’s easy to compare your journey to others, doubt your dreams, & ask God “WHEN AM I GOING TO BE SUCCESSFUL?” “WHEN IS IT GOING TO BE MY TURN?” & The Lord is saying, YOUR SUCCESS HAS A DUE DATE!

When a woman gets pregnant, she KNOWS that the seed that’s within her will take time to grow into a mature baby; at LEAST 9 months worth! She doesn’t expect to have the baby the week or month after she gets pregnant!! She can FEEL the seed on the inside of her; but she can’t SEE it! If we know this ALL to be true, why do we then, while pursuing our dreams, expect to be millionaires the week or month after we make the decision to walk in our purpose! This generation wants everything INSTANTLY; but we have to remind each other that we can’t MICROWAVE God! Truth is, it takes TIME for your dreams to grow into what they were created to be! It takes TIME to become a millionaire! It takes TIME to grow your brand! It takes TIME to have the character & integrity to handle Gods blessings and favor in your life! It takes TIME to grow in intimacy with God! IT TAKES TIME!

I’ve been reading this verse all week and it has been changing my life so much!

“That is why waiting does not diminish us, any more than waiting diminishes a pregnant mother. We are enlarged in the waiting. We, of course, don’t see what is enlarging us. But the longer we wait, the larger we become, and the more joyful our expectancy.” Romans 8:23-25

There are some KEY things to remember while you’re carrying your seed:
▪️You won’t be able to SEE & physically HOLD your promise until your due date! God has pre-written the due date for your success but you won’t ever encounter it if you abort your dreams
▪️When a woman is pregnant she has to think, not only for HERSELF, but for her baby! She has to change the way she eats, drinks, lives, etc… When you value what you carry, you will carry YOURSELF in such a way that prepares you for SUCCESS
▪️A woman (& her husband if there’s one) picks out the name and prepares for the baby’s arrival BEFORE it arrives. Are you preparing for the arrival of your success or just waiting for it to happen?
▪️The LONGER she waits, the LARGER She becomes, & the more JOYFUL her expectancy! Truth is, if you are working hard to live your dreams, it’s a PROCESS & you will have to WAIT! You should NOT be shrinking back in who you are & become depressed & sad as you wait! Your expectations should be JOYFUL! Change your perspective!
▪️God will prepare a team of people who are ready to help you when it’s time to deliver! The moment you begin to carry your seed and be aware of it, the WRONG people will begin dropping out of your life & the RIGHT ones will appear! God has pre-ordained a group of people to help you deliver your dreams! Have discernment and don’t be afraid to let go! Letting the wrong person help you deliver your dreams can cause major problems for you! Use wisdom & discernment

Keep carrying your dreams, walking in your purpose, & being patient! YOUR SUCCESS HAS A DUE DATE!

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Be The Standard👑,
Ashlee Harris

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NO FEAR IN LOVE

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This has been on my heart to share & I believe it will help bring healing to a lot of people like it’s done & doing for me!

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If we all be honest, there have probably been a ton of people who have done things to us that may have hurt us; & because of us receiving the lie that we have to entertain &/or hold on to hurt, we then become AFRAID to love those people because we feel like they will hurt us again! In reality, accepting “hurt” is somewhat of a defense mechanism that LOOKS like it’s protecting us from ever being hurt/offended again, when in reality, holding onto hurt keeps us locked inside of a place that God NEVER intended for us to dwell in!

PERFECT LOVE casts out ALL fear! I want you to be honest with yourself and think about all of the people who you’ve ALLOWED to hurt you & who you’re afraid to love! If you need to forgive them and you haven’t, it’s MAINLY because you’re afraid to let down your guard and LOVE them again!

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If you REALLY want to get free, get a piece of paper & write down all the people who you’ve allowed yourself to entertain the feelings of “hurt” offense & un-forgiveness with; & as you go through the list FORGIVE each person & say out loud “I AM NOT AFRAID TO LOVE YOU! I love you!”

Now, that doesn’t mean that you have to start talking with them everyday again lol; or even start talking with them AT ALL lol & there may be some people on that list that God tells you to CALL & forgive; & just DO IT! Ask Holyspirit how HE wants you to deal with this:)

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There are 3 things I’ve learned from this passage that is posted in this picture from John 4:

1. PERFECT love casts out ALL fear
2. If you’re afraid to love someone, yourself, or even GOD it’s because you have a fear of punishment rooted there & you need a FULL experience of Gods perfect love❤️
3. We love EACH OTHER because GOD loved us first! You don’t need a reason to love people, love them because GOD chose to love YOU first! Give yourself permission to be free and love!😊

If this post has helped you and you need more prayer, please email me at bethestandard1@aol.com! I’d love to pray for you concerning learning this lesson on how to love

Think about it ya’ll, God IS love! He could’ve chose to be anything else; but he chose to be LOVE! The enemy doesn’t want us to LOVE because when we truly begin to love, we will be like Jesus in this earth! The more we learn to love, the more God sees himself in us! The more God sees himself in us, the more heaven will invade this earth!!! I love you all!!! I pray this has blessed you as much as it has blessed me!!! I challenge you to LOVE!!!

I LOVE you!

Be the standard👑,

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Ashlee Harris👑
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Email: bethestandard1@aol.com
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DREAMING YOURSELF INTO YOUR PROMISES

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As a full-time entrepreneur, I’ve learned the importance of dreaming while you’re awake! There are so many people who dream BIG dreams but don’t know how to turn them into amazing REALITIES! They are “Sleeping” on their dreams, creative ideas, & purpose; not knowing that if they just “WAKE UP” their entire life will change for the better! I’ve ALSO learned that there are 3 TYPES of people who can hinder you from living your dreams if you give them the POWER to! In this blog, I will share who those 3 types of people are & some tips on how to DREAM INTO YOUR PROMISES! I pray that as you read this, you are inspired, motivated, & that you awaken to all that God has planned for you in your life!

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DEFINING MOMENTS

Truth is, the very SECOND you make the decision to madly PURSUE & live your dreams, you are agreeing to start a journey to becoming the BEST you! You WILL face opposition, rejection, & see people for who they really are! Heck, you will begin to see YOURSELF for who you really are! These are DEFINING MOMENTS! I like to think of a DEFINING MOMENT as this: A moment that has the capability of discouraging &/or distracting you from your purpose; OR this moment can PUSH you even deeper into who you are called to be! You are DEFINED in these moments by how you ▪️THINK ▪️RESPOND ▪️& from what you LEARN from it!

I remember a DEFINING MOMENT for me (and I’ve had MANY since I’ve launched my business) was last year when I planned to host a big wrap party! For those of you who don’t know, in my business, I host a lot of parties & help people live healthier lives & become financially free! Last year, there was a period, of about a month or so, where I wasn’t having much success with wrap parties! I remember during that time, at one point, I drove an hour and a HALF away to someone’s house to host one and only TWO people came and one of those people was the HOST! Then I had another party after that that wasn’t THAT successful either! THEN, I said to myself “Ok, I’m just going to do my OWN event & throw my own party & invite people!” I remember I was low on money because I wasn’t as successful as I am now & I was still BUILDING my business! I made the sacrifice though! I had this amazing idea to do a trunk sale/wrap party! I bought a TON of food, set up everything super nice, and was looking good lol A lot of people said they were coming so I was super excited despite that during this period in my life, parties were NOT successful for me! Well, NO ONE showed up to the wrap party! When I say NO ONE, I mean NO ONE!!! LOL I can laugh about it now because I’ve overcome! After about an hour of no one showing up, I laughed & said “Well, no one is coming so let’s eat & enjoy the day!” In that moment, I was DEFINED! RIGHT after I said that, God spoke to me & said, “CONGRATULATIONS!!! You passed the test! A FAILURE is only a failure if you don’t LEARN from it!” That was one of the most SUCCESSFUL days of my life because I learned what success was to God! It wasn’t about what you can see on the OUTSIDE, but how wealthy I was on the INSIDE! From that point on, I wasn’t really swayed by what people did or didn’t do! I learned the value of PERSEVERANCE & laughing when things don’t go as I’ve planned! That was a DEFINING MOMENT for me that has helped me to live my dreams even today!

“Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.” (‭Romans‬ ‭5‬:‭3-4‬ NIV)

*Take a moment to think about a defining moment you’ve had this year & whether you’ve learned from it or you’ve let it define you negatively! Write down how it defined you*

The 3 TYPES of people who can hinder you from living your dreams if you give them the POWER to!

OK, so now that we have covered DEFINING MOMENTS I want to explain the 3 types of people who can hinder your dreams if you give them the POWER to! I will provide SOLUTIONS after describing each type! When you come in contact with one of these three people, remember to let your experience with them define you POSITIVELY and not negatively! You will have MANY DEFINING MOMENTS when encountering these people that will help you begin to DREAM yourself into the promises God has for you!

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TYPE 1: A DREAM THIEF

Dream THIEVES try & copy everything you do &/or steal your dreams & ideas from you because they don’t know who THEY are in God. They are VALIDATED by attention & will do whatever they can to feed that void! If you pay attention to them for too long, you will become frustrated, & that frustration WILL hinder your movement. The GOAL is to not even pay attention to them AT ALL! Lol Please realize that imitation is the highest form of flattery! If you see all kinds of people imitating who you are & what you do without ever giving you credit, that’s one of the BIGGEST compliments you can ever receive!

What’s the solution when dealing with a dream THIEF: Remember, they may be able to copy your IDEAS, but they can never copy your ANOINTING! God has anointed each and every one of us DIFFERENTLY! We may have the same ideas but when it comes down to it, YOU can’t do it like anyone else can & THEY can’t do it quite like you can, because the ANOINTING makes the distinction!

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TYPE 2: A DREAM DOUBTER

DREAM DOUBTERS are a little tricky to identify because they often times look like those CLOSEST to us! For example, they can be a family member, friend, &/or someone you look up to! When you begin to REALIZE the potential of your God-given dream you get SUPER excited about it & can’t help but start telling those who are CLOSEST to you!!! ALWAYS pray about whom you share your dreams with! Even those closest to you can secretly be hating you! (P.s. I’m NOT into glorifying “HATERS;” But what I AM into is WISDOM!)

Take my homie Joseph for instance:

“Joseph had a dream, and when he told it to his brothers, they hated him all the more.” (‭Genesis‬ ‭37‬:‭5‬ NIV)

A dream DOUBTER has the potential to hinder you from living your dreams if you give them the power to! They don’t like you! Flat out! But they ACT like they do because they are driven by DOUBT & JEALOUSY! They don’t have the courage to live THEIR dreams so when you come along & share YOURS with them, they doubt them! They can never FULLY be happy for you! Secretly, they think what you’re planning to do is absolutely CRAZY, but deep down, they wish they had the courage to do it too! Listening to & taking advice from a DREAM DOUBTER will cause you to begin to doubt your dreams & slow your momentum down!

What’s the solution when dealing with a dream DOUBTER: STOP SHARING YOUR DREAMS WITH EVERYONE & disconnect from those dream doubters no matter how hard it is! Give yourself permission to ONLY surround yourself in your inner circle with peace & with those who FULLY believe in your dreams! Don’t doubt who God has called you to be!

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TYPE 3: A DREAM KILLER

Dream KILLERS are just flat out driven by ▪️Insecurity ▪️Jealousy & ▪️Hate & they do NOT want you to live your dreams!!!

“Here comes that dreamer!” they said to each other. “Come now, let’s kill him and throw him into one of these cisterns and say that a ferocious animal devoured him. Then we’ll see what comes of his dreams.” (‭Genesis‬ ‭37:19-20‬ NIV)

Dream killers are just miserable people who don’t know how to celebrate other people! They are USUALLY intimidated by the greatness that God has placed inside of you! They feel like if YOU live your dreams, you will become GREATER than who they are, & that scares the MESS out of them! They don’t realize that greatness comes by SERVING & helping other people become GREAT! They will do anything & everything they can to stop you from dreaming BIG & living in your promises! Truth is, these types of people will constantly show up on your journey & you will never get rid of them! As long as you’re living your dreams, you WILL encounter one! Lol

Here’s the solution to dealing with a dream KILLER:

“But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.” (‭Luke‬ ‭6‬:‭27-28‬ NIV)

As Danny Silk says, “KEEP YOUR LOVE ON!”

God prepares a FEAST for you in the presence of your enemies! I’ve learned, and am still learning, to be glad when my enemies start gathering around! That just means that God is preparing my FEAST & it’s about to be GOOOOOD!!!!

I want to close with this! I asked my good friend Marcus McCauley, who also happens to be an AMAZING & successful entrepreneur, & is ROCKING it in the music industry, to share on “DREAMS!”

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You can connect with him on Facebook under the name:
Marcus McCauley
& follow him on Instagram:
CRAZYCHRDS

As you read these words, soak them all in & be ENCOURAGED!!!

“What are dreams made of? As children, we all had aspirations to be somebody or to change the world. As you grow intellectually and physically, you may have slowly realized that those dreams may not be your reality. The woes of life may have slowed you down &/or just made you feel like your dreams will NEVER come true. So the question still stands, “What are dreams made of?”

Dreams are made of optimism, determination, creativity, innovation, endurance, and most importantly, FAITH IN GOD. In the world of entrepreneurship, you’re embarking on a lonely, but fulfilling, road. Now, let’s not get into the “Hater syndrome.” People always voice that they’re lonely or can’t surround themselves with people because they are hating on their entrepreneurship endeavors. Haters and nay sayers are a given in life. Get over it, once you get delivered from people you are on the right track.

Don’t mistake haters for constructive criticism. Some people’s intentions may be good, and others may not. YOU choose what to internalize and what to throw away. If it helps you, keep it. If it discourages you, throw it away. Yes, easier said then done; but you will have so much freedom and a clear mind to proceed in your entrepreneurial journey.

Don’t ever compare your journey to others. Always keep your goals and dreams close to your heart. Enjoy the journey, work hard, stay positive, and roll with the punches!!! Never give up and let God lead the way!!!

-Marcus McCauley

You are worth it!

NEVER stop dreaming,

Ashlee Harris👑
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Email: bethestandard1@aol.com
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Holiness OVER Horniness

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When I was 16 years old I began dating a guy who I REALLY liked! He was FINE, smelled good, on the basketball team, & was even a Christian! I thought I had hit the jackpot! lol We dated for 8 months & did EVERYTHING sexual except have actual intercourse! (Which is CRAZY because I told him before we started dating that I was a virgin and wasn’t having intercourse until I was married!) The more time went on, the more I walked away from God in my dedication to him! Before dating this guy, I would spend HOURS in Gods presence reading my bible, writing worship songs & sermons, & growing with him!
After dating for 8 months, this guy I was so in “love” with told me that he loved me, but he couldn’t stay with me any more unless we had sex because he couldn’t take it anymore! At first I was like well BYE! Lol Then because of my emotions and my LACK OF GOD & ,a strong relationship with my father, I caved in! It was on a Saturday! I told my mom I was going to the library but in reality, I was going to meet my then boyfriend at the library to go and have sex! I didn’t know my worth SO much so… I ended up settling for having sex for the very first time on the ground behind a building on top of coat jackets! I could feel Gods sadness as I proceeded with it all too! A few months later, after going down a VERY wrong path of lust filled with porn, masturbation, & tons of sex with my then boyfriend; God totally changed my life through a series of events!
Since then, I’ve NEVER been the same nor had sex again! I’ve been celibate for 9 years now!! I haven’t dated a man in a few years either! Some people ask me WHY haven’t you had sex in that long? WHY haven’t you been in a relationship in a few years? I am happy with my relationship with God & with the journey he has me on! He has taught me how to guard my heart & to get ALL of my voids filled by HIM alone! I don’t have an urge to watch porn, masturbate, and/or have sex! I don’t have an urge to date men just because I’m alone and everyone else around me is getting in relationships & married! God & I are ROCK SOLID!! So when The Lord spoke to me to create this shirt for my clothing line, I was like say what now? Lol but I remembered MY testimony & knew I HAD to do it! I’m not the only one with a testimony of fornication to purity! Slavery in sin to freedom in Christ! So when you wear this shirt with me, remember where God has brought YOU from &, DAILY, keep choosing HOLINESS over HORNINESS!!! ‪#‎BeTheStandard‬

Prayer:
God, help me to be the standard in my own life! Help me to be who you’ve created me to be and to not live my life based on my emotions and my flesh! I honor you with my life and my body papa God!! I thank you for helping me to stay pure and live a life that honors you!!! I choose HOLINESS in every situation and I love you!! Amen

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Hidden FOR love

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“It is the glory of God to conceal a matter; to search out a matter is the glory of kings.” (Proverbs 25:2 NIV)

Have you ever been on a “TREASURE HUNT?” A treasure hunt is one of many different types of games which can have one or more players who try to find hidden articles, locations or places by using a series of clues. When I was younger, I loved playing this game because I knew that the person hiding the articles weren’t hiding them FROM me, they were hiding them FOR me to find! If you and I just be completely honest, I can almost guarantee you that we’ve BOTH had times when we were SINGLE and looking at all of the people in relationships, engaged, or married, wondering, “God!! WHEN is it going to be MY turn?” I’ll be honest and say that I have TOTALLY had those thoughts before!! On days like Valentine’s Day and during the holidays, being single is made CRYSTAL CLEAR!! LOL In this blog, i’m going to give you!! 3 reasons why, I believe, God hides love FOR us! I know it can be tough sometimes to not compare your LACK of a love life to someone else’s or to not question God concerning your heart, so that’s why I wrote this blog just for you!! I wrote it as a reminder that if you could take a journey into your future, you would SOON realize that God was never hiding love and romance FROM you, he was hiding it FOR you!! He was protecting you and your purity & helping you properly guard your heart above all things!! So relax because YOU, my dear, are being hidden FOR love!!

Reason ONE:We have to learn to love ourselves as God loves us first

“And you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, and all your strength.’ The second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ No other commandment is greater than these.” (Mark 12:30, 31 NLT)

It’s SO important for us to love ourselves!

When you DON’T love yourself, you attract people who don’t love themselves either into your life. God values our hearts. Before we can try learning someone else’s heart and how to love THEM, we have to learn OUR own heart and how to love ourselves how God loves US! No, we don’t have to be perfect when we get married but we should, at least, know how to love ourselves! I do believe marriage is a life long lesson of learning to love; but if we still have tons of trust issues, insecurities, & don’t have an intimate relationship with God in the BEGINNING, that will effect our relationship and marriage in the LONGRUN!

“Why? Because the Master won’t ever walk out and fail to return. If he works severely, he also works tenderly. His stockpiles of loyal love are immense. He takes no pleasure in making life hard, in throwing roadblocks in the way:” (Lamentations 3:31-33 MSG)

During my teenage years, I didn’t know how to really love myself as God does! I was trying to find love in empty promises, sex, masturbation, wrong friends, secular music, and anything else that unhealthily filled my voids. After breaking up with my boyfriend in high-school, I became that person who was ALWAYS like, “UGH God!!! WHY AM I ALWAYS SINGLE?” I literally felt like God was punishing me for years and I would cry and get SOOOO angry with him; and with just life in general because I couldn’t understand why I was STILL single! I couldn’t understand why I didn’t have the luxury of having a significant other like everyone else because I was truly living for God and WITH him! I was reading my bible every chance I could get, I LOVED spending HOURS with him, I was writing songs to him, stopped hanging with the wrong people, was leading worship at my school, was preaching here and there, was prophesying to my classmates, and being super used by God…. WHY THE HECK WAS I STILL SINGLE?!? haha I’m laughing writing that because it’s so funny how we think that because we DO things for God, he HAS to do what we say and give us the desires of our heart IMMEDIATELY!!! Welp, I learned that’s NOT how it goes!! God was not punishing me! He doesn’t delight in making our lives hard! God wasn’t hiding love FROM me, he was hiding it FOR me! I was NOT ready to be in a romantic relationship and GOD knew that! What I REALLY needed was the love of GOD to completely fill my heart and every void, not a relationship! Have you ever gotten into a relationship and after a few months, it starts to go way left and you don’t even know why? That’s probably because you are trying to get the needs, only GOD can meet, met by that person!

I truly believe that God anoints our husband/wife to love us specifically how we NEED to be loved! I know for me, the blessed man whom God has chosen to love me has to be REALLY anointed and special lol I know a lot of times, if I would’ve just listened to the holyspirit and not entered into that void-filling relationship, I would’ve saved myself a WHOLE bunch of hurt, rejection, bitterness, trust issues, and all that jazz! Maybe you are single because God is protecting you from a bad situation! The amazing thing about papa God is that he can see WAY down the road of our lives! He IS the beginning and the end! He knows the day we’re going to get in that relationship with the man/woman of our dreams because he WROTE it lol and he knows the time and day when we are going to marry them! Focus on learning to love yourself FIRST and let God completely fill you up before trying to learn to love your “neighbor.” Go after God with no distractions and before you know it, your significant other will be seeking God with all of their heart right beside you!

Reason TWO: It’s just not time

One of my FAVORITE verses that has really helped me to rest in God concerning my love life is:

“Promise me, O women of Jerusalem, by the gazelles and wild deer, not to awaken love until the time is right.” (Song of Songs 2:7 NLT)

I LOVE that verse because there have been so many times in my life where I THOUGHT I was ready to awaken my love with someone by getting into a romantic relationship with them and the holyspirit was like, ” Uhhh NO! Pump the brakes boo!!” LOL I like to think of awakening love before it’s time like this:

Imagine that you’ve prepared to bake a cake! You’ve mixed the ingredients together, poured it into the cake pan, and placed it in the oven. A person who is trying to awaken love before it’s time is like taking an un-baked cake out of the oven before it’s finished cooking! Eating that cake before it’s done cooking could possibly make you sick and it could just be flat out DISGUSTING! I don’t know about ya’ll but I’ve awakened love before it’s time PLENTY of times and It ALWAYS ended up DISGUISTING and making my emotions sick! OH but baby when you let that cake cook…how GOOD and delicious is THAT?!?!!! It’s SO enjoyable and yummy!! Just like our love lives will be!!

You have to know that YOU ARE ENOUGH!! I know for me, I used to struggle with thoughts such as, “Am I not in a relationship because I’m ugly? or fat?” “What can I change in my appearance that will make guys more attracted to me because it seems like NO ONE wants to be with me?” Often times, God keeps you covered so the WRONG people can’t get to you! He shields you from future hurt! He protects you from a hot mess situation you can’t see forming in the beginning! You ARE enough! ALWAYS be completely yourself so that the person God has for you can fall in love with the REAL you! The imperfect you! The you that’s still growing!! Just rememember, it’s not necessarily about if you’re doing something wrong or not, it’s probably just NOT the right time for you to be in a romantic relationship and married! The time WILL come though! So enjoy this single seaon of your life!! Stay strong and rooted in God!

Reason THREE: Your perspective concerning love may be tainted & need deep inner healing

When I was flying back home from Texas last week, I was amazed by how much smaller things seemed to look the higher we climbed!! My perspective of how BIG things were changed in just a few minutes time! I realized that where I was PHYSICALLY had a lot to do with my perspective concerning things! Where we are in our lives emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually directly affect our perspective in our lives! LADIES, if your father wasn’t really there for you in your life and/or knew how to love you, your family, and/or your mom properly, you have a good chance of growing up with the perspective that whatever man you court/marry is going to be the same way; and you will actually end up accepting that reality, no matter how much you don’t want to, until God truly becomes your father and shows you what true love is. FELLAS, if you have a mom who may have given you up for adoption, or just flat out didn’t really care about having a relationship with you when you were younger, and didn’t really care about you; there’s a good chance that you’ve built up walls by now towards all women and believe that the woman whom you court/marry won’t really care about you, will leave you, and that she cannot be fully trusted.

Think about it, why would God bring you your husband/wife if you don’t even fully BELIEVE that person can be trusted completely? Or maybe it’s the fact that God knows you have a problem with your anger and the moment you and your boo have your first disagreement, you will flip ALL the way out…so he’s taking the time to teach you how to work through that! Or maybe its the fact that you don’t properly know how to guard your heart and protect your purity! Or MAYBE, even though you ACT confident, you are extremely insecure and you don’t even feel like you deserve Gods best so you date to fill those voids! Whatever the case may be, GOD knows when we’re ready! HE knows whether we need deep inner healing or not before we get into a relationship with our mates! HE knows whether our perspective on love is tainted! The bottom line is that HE KNOWS and we just really don’t lol Once you come to the conclusion that HE knows and you don’t, your life will get even better!!

My perspective concerning love used to be tainted by hurt, bitterness, doubt, and insecurity until God really began to heal my heart and place people in my life who were really good at loving me! God EVEN placed a couple men in my life to teach me how to love! NO, they were not placed in my life for me to date or marry them, but they were placed there for me to learn to trust again and to know that every man isn’t out to treat me like crap and/or have sex with me. Maybe that relationship you’re in isn’t working out because God didn’t bring them in your life for you to fall in love with them…. he brought them in your life to teach you what the love of God looks like with no hidden agendas! There ARE good men and women out there ya’ll! Ask God to give you fresh and new perspective concerning love! Ask him to teach you what love looks like! He LOVES showing us what his love looks like!!

Prayer (Feel free to pray this out loud):

God, I thank you for your love! Thank you that through you, I AM ENOUGH! I thank you for helping me realize that being single is not a punishment but a beautiful season of my life that I should be enjoying! Thank you for not hiding love FROM me but FOR me! Thank you for helping me protect my heart, body, spirit, and mind from things I may not be able to see, but that YOU see because you are the beginning and the end! Thank you for helping me to trust in YOUR timing! You know what you are doing and I release myself from the unknown! I put all of my faith and trust in you concerning my love life from this point on! I will not compare my love life with anyone else’s, I will not wish I were someone else, and I will not hate on anyone else’s happiness! I rejoice for those who are happily in romantic relationships and married!! Thank you for writing my love story God! Help me to continue trusting you! In Jesus name, Amen!!

Remember, Gods not punishing you! He’s not hiding love and romance FROM you, he’s hiding it FOR you <3

Be The Standard,

Ashlee Harris

PERFECTLY imperfect

“But you are to be perfect, even as your Father in heaven is perfect.” (Matthew 5:48 NLT)

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It was a regular, EARLY, morning and I was around 6 or 7 years old & half asleep!! I woke up & went straight to the bathroom! After using the restroom, I sat there and just leaned my head back for some crazy reason! Immediately, I started screaming & woke my parents up because the back of my hair was on FIRE!! (This is your moment to laugh & not feel bad! Lol) Yes honey, my hair was on FIRE! My mom was up & had lit a candle, put it in the bathroom, & I didn’t see it! I stood in the doorway of the bathroom & my dad put the fire out in my hair with his bare hands! I remember looking at his hands & they were so black! (I mean he’s ALREADY black lol, but they were BLACK!) I stood there thinking “I’m so glad that fire didn’t travel all the way up my head & burn my face!” God really works wonders, because I didn’t even have to go to the ER or anything!! I didn’t go to school that day, of course, & since my godmother is an amazing hair stylist, we went to her house! I remember her touching the back of my hair and it was literally ALL ashes!! I saw all of the ashes laying on the floor! I looked in the mirror & felt like I was stuck in a bad dream!! I didn’t know that God was going to take me on a journey of loving ME…and I’m so glad he did!!

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BEAUTY FOR ASHES

Since that day, I was always insecure about my hair! The insecurity would seem to decrease every year but, nevertheless, it was ALWAYS there! On October 17th of this year, I did something I hadn’t done since I was a pre-teen; I WORE MY OWN HAIR!!! It was ALL NATURAL honey, no weave or anything!! The feedback I received from people that day absolutely blew me away! The crazy thing is I had a dream a couple years ago & I saw my hair EXACTLY how it is when I wear it curly & I knew in my dream that it would be a season of favor and so many blessings!! WOW!! Before I chose to go all natural, I felt God speak to my heart and he brought SO much peace to me! I felt like wearing MY hair was something I NEEDED to do in order for me to go to the next level in my life! The thought of me wearing MY hair scared me; I’m not even going to lie! lol My little sister had been wearing her hair in bantu knots all summer and God suggested that I should wear my hair like that as well! So, I did!! Wearing my natural hair has changed my life! I used to be SOOO dependent on WEAVES!! I wore them to cover up! I wore them because they were comfortable!! I wore them because they made me feel sexy and secure!! I SOON realized that, GOD has created me SPECIFICALLY how I am and when I FULLY decided to live in that truth this year, I became a brand new woman! I actually feel like I BECAME Ashlee!! I felt like God literally introduced me to myself and I haven’t known myself, per se, all these years!! Let me make this clear, I am NOT against women wearing weaves!! LOL I’m actually going to get one put in soon because I don’t want to keep putting heat on my hair! Being ALL NATURAL is hard WORK!! Shoutout to all of you amazing ladies who twist, braid, and rock the natural look!! Ya’ll rock FORREAL lol

As mentioned above, the day the back of my hair burned off, it was literally in ASHES!! The day I decided to wear MY hair is the day that God restored me and healed me from that experience… he gave me beauty for my ashes!! We have to always remember that beauty is an inside job!! There are a lot of PRETTY girls walking around who are UGLY on the inside!! One of my favorite verses says,

“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” (Proverbs 31:30 NIV)

LADIES: What good is it for us to be super beautiful on the OUTSIDE but can’t cook, clean, be successful, not have any vision or set goals for our life….and feeling like a hot mess walking on the INSIDE? One day, while spending time with God, he said to me, ” You’re going to take your body off one day!! You better make sure your SPIRIT looks good!!” Who you ARE is far more important than what you LOOK like!! Likes and followers are great but if the people are only liking and following you because you are advertising private parts on your body, you need to refocus, get with God, and let him make you whole!! God has turned my ashes into beauty and he will do the same for you if you give him a chance to!! God asks us to do scary things all the doggone time that push us out of our comfort zones but it’s ALL to help us be the best version of ourselves and to grow closer to him! Whether God asks you to stop wearing make-up for a while (which I’ve done before as well), stop wearing fake nails, stop wearing fake hair, etc… just do it! It’s all to help you be more confident and live the life he has planned for you!!

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“To console those who mourn in Zion, To give them beauty for ashes, The oil of joy for mourning, The garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; That they may be called trees of righteousness, The planting of the Lord, that He may be glorified.” (Isaiah 61:3 NKJV)

FREEDOM

“Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.” (2 Corinthians 3:17 NIV)

Jesus is freedom. He is freedom in it’s purest form. When you are fully confident in God and in who he’s created you to be, you will experience Jesus…you will experience true freedom. Society tries to keep us bound by what we are NOT. We’re not skinny enough, we’re not sexy enough, we’re not rich enough, we’re not holy enough…but GOD says, “WHO YOU ARE IS ENOUGH!”

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Wow! I remember like yesterday a few years ago when I wasn’t feeling so great in who I am in God! I loved myself and I loved God, but I didn’t fully understand HIS love for ME! I was perfectly imperfect serving a perfect God who loves me PERFECTLY, but I didn’t fully grasp that! I was DOING a lot for God but I knew that he was teaching me to just BE! I sat down by myself, with some worship music on, in the middle of my room and God told me to stop everything I was doing. In that moment, he told me not to pray to him, read the bible, talk, or sing along to the worship music! He just told me to sit there with him! He then began to tell me, “Ashlee, if you NEVER do anything for me ever again and if you just sit here in the middle of your floor with me for the rest of your life, I’d still love you and that would be just enough for me!” It’s amazing how God loves us, simply, for who we ARE not for what we DO!! What we DO is like the icing on the cake!! We don’t have to perform to get Gods attention! We don’t have to be GREAT to receive his love! We don’t have to be perfect to know him! We can come to him, perfectly imperfect, and he will pour out his love into us in ways we couldn’t have imagined! It’s so important for us all to learn this deep down in the core of our being!!! He will ALWAYS love us!! We have been adopted into his royal family!! We are his and he is our father!! We have to stop the striving, stop trying to LOOK a certain way to people but in secret looking a completely different way, and just BE who God has created us to be!! Look yourself in the mirror, post it as your status, write it in your journal, say it to yourself out loud, whatever you have to do to truly believe this….say, “WHO I AM IS ENOUGH!!” Isn’t that freeing?!? Ahh I just love papa God!! I’ll never forget what Kris V. said a few years ago that has always stuck with me! He said, “We are human BEINGS not human DOINGS! Too much do- do stinks!!” LOL

“The Spirit you received does not make you slaves, so that you live in fear again; rather, the Spirit you received brought about your adoption to sonship. And by him we cry, “Abba, Father.” (Romans 8:15 NIV)

I pray that while reading this you have been receiving a revelation of Gods love for you! I pray that you truly find freedom in God and rest in who you are! I pray that papa God helps us all get even hungrier for HIM and not the things of this world!! That we constantly keep in mind that it’s not about what we look like on our EXTERIOR, but about who we are in our INTERIOR!! Help us to not find our identity in things of little substance! Help us to always remember that whether we have a weave, fake nails, make-up on or not, we are still beautiful and full of your glory! Help us to prepare for our purpose and be who you have called us to be!! Free us from our anxious fears and from the opinoin of man! YOUR opinion is greater than any human opinion! You have adopted us, you have chosen us, and you have redeemed us!! Thank you for your love papa!!! We love you!!! Amen!!

Always remember,

We are perfectly imperfect serving a perfect God who loves us PERFECTLY❤️

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Be The Standard,

Ashlee Harris

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HELP!! I’m SINGLE during the holidays!!

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Are you single during the holidays???? Well, you probably ARE if you’re reading this huh?!? LOL If you are, the peer pressure of being in a romantic relationship during this season might be getting to you! If I be honest, I’VE even had moments during these last few weeks where I was like “Ummm God?!? When am I going to have that special someone to spend this season of my life with?” LOL I’m usually fine and I SUPER enjoy being single right now, but there’s just something about this season!! I had a good talk with one of my sisters in christ, Jennifer Lucy Tyler, & she helped to remind me of some things!! I’m excited to share them with you!! We can get so caught up in what we DON’T have sometimes that we miss out on the blessings we DO have pouring into our lives!! It’s important for us to be content in EVERY season of our lives…Single, married, pregnant, no kids, wealthy, broke, in the valley, on the mountain, and so forth… So, here are 5 important things I love to remember while being SINGLE during the holidays (Including Valentines Day & every other holiday) :

1) If God wanted you to be in a relationship and/or married right now, you would be! HIS TIMING IS PERFECT!!

“Oh, let me warn you… Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe—and you’re ready.” (Song of Solomon 3:5 MSG)

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2) BE CONTENT! Rest in your portion & believe that God has a love story written for you that is going to blow you away when it’s time!!

I used to be SO anxious to get married!! I was like one of the most impatient people on earth concerning that! It’s a life-changing thing when you can trust God with your heart and your love life! If we be honest, most of us don’t really trust God with our love life…we just hook up with people and THEN ask God to bless it; instead of waiting on him and the person he has specifically designed for us & enjoying that!! Wait on God & the marriage HE has planned for you because that’s ALREADY blessed & has his approval! Have you ever been in a relationship without Gods approval and blessing? It’s ROUGH lol It’s so much better do live life Gods way! We have to trust him with our heart and know that he WANTS us to be happy, in love, & blessed with the right person!!

“…for I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content…” (Philippians 4:11 NKJV)

3) DON’T COMPARE your love life to anyone else’s!! Yes, this is the season where everyone likes to cuddle, everyone with the “TOUCH” love language needs some EXTRA prayer lol, & you feel like you just want that special someone to spend the holidays with!! It seems like everyone around you is hooking up, getting engaged, & getting married but STAY FOCUSED!! Some people are “together” during the holidays & are completely miserable lol; and Some are genuinely happy and in LOVE, but that shouldn’t make you feel all alone & emotional! Take a moment to be sad & have a little pity party, then move the heck on! Lol Ain’t nobody got time for THAT!!

“And don’t be wishing you were someplace else or with someone else. Where you are right now is God’s place for you. Live and obey and love and believe right there. God, not your marital status, defines your life…” (1 Corinthians 7:17 MSG)

4) ENJOY YOUR LIFE!! There’s so many WONDERFUL things going on your life and you’ll constantly enjoy them if you stay focused on what God is doing instead of the fact that you’re not married! Count your blessings and don’t focus on what you don’t have! The enemy will do everything he can to stop you from fully enjoying your life!! When we focus on what’s NOT happening, we rob ourselves of Gods joy and peace!! We have unlimited access to Gods joy, but we’ll miss it complaining about what he’s not doing for us!! You’re SINGLE for a reason; figure out what that reason is and rest in God!! Keep growing into the man/woman HE wants you to be!!

Instead of me focusing on the fact that i’m not married, I am trusting God with my love life and ENJOYING LIFE!! I am running a successful health and wellness business, running my ministry “Be The Standard,” motivating others, getting healthier everyday, networking, growing my income so I don’t have to be broke when I get married, planning on buying my first home next year, getting completely out of debt, & working on ME!! Sometimes I laugh because I’m enjoying this so much!! I often make a joke to my mom & say, “I don’t even know if I have the TIME to be in a relationship right now!” lol STAY FOCUSED and ENJOY YOUR LIFE!!

“So let’s keep focused on that goal, those of us who want everything God has for us. If any of you have something else in mind, something less than total commitment, God will clear your blurred vision—you’ll see it yet! Now that we’re on the right track, let’s stay on it.” (Philippians 3:15,16 MSG)

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5) KEEP PREPARING YOURSELF!! If you are single right now, it’s probably crossed your mind how you really wanted to have someone special to spend this season and the rest of your life with! Just think of this as another year to work on YOURSELF & prepare for the man/woman God has for you!! Don’t give into the hype!! Pursue God daily and let him continually make you whole!! Be SO in love with God and content in your marital status, that you don’t even care whether you get married or stay single forever…as long as you’re in love with God and living in his perfect will!! If you’re single, overweight, unhealthy, broke, in debt insecure, etc… PLEASE take this time to GET YOUR LIFE!! lol seriously!!! WHY get married when you’re overweight, unhealthy, broke, etc.. when you can use this time of singleness to prepare yourself? Esther PREPARED for her king & was granted everything she had prayed/asked for! A lot of us just want God to microwave our love life, blessings, success, and everything else!! LIFE IS A PROCESS BOO!! Stop asking God for your KING/QUEEN without taking the time to PREPARE for him/her!! Seek God and get whole!!

“… His names will be: Amazing Counselor, Strong God, Eternal Father, Prince of Wholeness. His ruling authority will grow, and there’ll be no limits to the wholeness he brings.” (Isaiah 9:6 MSG)

I pray that this blog has helped you to refocus and rest in your heart concerning your future!! God really does have some AMAZING things planned for you…just keep living and being the awesome person that you are!! In DUE SEASON, you’ll be able to help someone else during these times!! I pray that the PEACE of God flood your heart and that his presence rest on you! I pray a covering over your mind and that you continue to trust God with your life!! This is a WONDERFUL season of life for you!! Guard your purity and continue to honor God with your life!!

Be The Standard,

Ashlee Harris

Thanks for reading! If you would like to stay more connected with Be The Standard,

1. Go to Facebook and “like” the BTS page
2. Friend request me on Facebook! ( Ash Elisé)
3. Follow me on Instagram at “imashelise”
4. Email me at Bethestandard@aol.com

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